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My First Blog

Today I finally reached my Network moment, as I read the Indie’s article on public harassment(http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/catcalls-whistles-groping-just-another-day-for-a-young-woman-7786185.html) I could think of nothing better than yelling “I’m mad as hell and I’m not going to take this anymore” from the nearest window. So, rather than terrifying my parents’ neighbours, I thought I would use the internet as my window and write my first blog. Brace yourselves…

I might be outside of the study’s age group, but my experience as a woman living/working/playing in London is all too familiar. Here are some things that have happened to me in public (this excludes bars/nightclubs as that’s a whole other blog): 

  • Subjected to verbal harassment by a group of about 10 men for around 20 minutes on the Tube, the only way off the train was passed them, they blocked the exit so that I had to squeeze passed, at least 2 put their hands up my skirt – this was a Saturday afternoon
  •  Followed home by a man who was angry that I hadn’t responded to his comments to me on the bus which I genuinely hadn’t heard. I had to walk away from my front door as I was so worried he would find out where I lived, he eventually got bored of walking round in circles and just yelled what a bitch I was at me as I walked away
     
  • Conversations along these lines are frequent:

Him:               Where are you going?
Me:                *stony faced silence*
Him:               Bitch

Or

Him:               Where are you going?
Me:                Home
Him:               Where’s home?
Me:                *Look that says, ‘none of your business’*
Him:               Bitch 

  • Eyed up and obviously talked about by two young guys on the platform. I get into a different carriage on purpose. They walk through the train to sit in my carriage so that they can carry on discussing me.

 Those are on top of the almost daily staring, whistling, gesturing and commenting that we all live with.

 Which is what is making me so angry today (despite a rather wonderful massage this morning), that women in London and I suspect the rest of the UK have just learned to live with this bullshit. We sigh, we roll our eyes and we tut at the lower level stuff and then I hear stories of women changing how they dress, travel and socialise in order to avoid the bigger stuff. Did you notice that, it’s the women changing their lives to accommodate men’s bad behaviour?

I completely understand why any woman would choose to protect herself from the harassment she suffers while out and about, but to all my friends and family who might be reading this, I’m not going to be one of those women. I will not accept this as the way life is and I will not change what makes me happy in order to avoid it – I might keep having massages to calm me down though.

Maybe I am over-reacting; a lot of women enjoy a compliment… But if it’s okay to stare down my top on the Tube, does that mean that you don’t believe I deserve your respect? If I don’t deserve your respect, then why do I deserve equal pay? Or the right to do with my body whatever I want? Or how about protection from unfair government cuts? Because if my gender gives you licence to treat me differently than a man while I just happen to walk passed you, then why not treat me differently everywhere?

So, that’s my shout out of the window today. Do I feel better for having a shout? Not really, but I’m working on it.

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6 thoughts on “My First Blog

  1. So, so familiar. And even worse: it’s not just London, is it? I’m Dutch, and I don’t know where this person (http://t.co/5TQFWF7N) is from, but she writes about exactly the same things. It’s all over the place.

  2. I can totally relate to this. In fact just yesterday, some guy yelled “Get your tits out, princess” as he drove past. VILE. I don’t understand how any one thinks that shouting out crude things or reaching out to have a “quick grope” is acceptable behaviour by any standards! Aaaarghhhh.

  3. Aditya Pillai on said:

    Hello

    Have a look at this. A lighthearted video against Eve Teasing/ Street Harassment campaign that goes around Mumbai asking Mumbai women what they would do if they ever got their hands on an Eve Teaser. Have a look and spread the word. The issue needs to get more attention especially in the Indian Sub Continent.

    http://mumbaiboss.com/2012/05/09/female-approved-punishments-for-eve-teasers/

    Thanks

  4. Aditya Pillai on said:

    The bigger the voice for the issue I mean :)

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